“Have you ever thought of trying this colour? I think it would look good on you” “Why would you think that thing would look good on you? It sucks.” Or “What do you do, do you plan to explore further?” “What do you do, don't you think there are plenty of other things that could have been accomplished this whole time?” It's quite easy to recognise that there's a huge difference in both of these sentences in each example, right? Well. The mind that can differentiate and understand the tone, and the meaning of the sentence just by reading, often fails to understand while hearing the same thing from someone.(fails in the sense - of always being unable to understand the true intention of a particular person.) yes, I have the same kind of mind and I believe many of us do. Yeah, I mean sometimes, I just cannot discern the intention of the person, which causes me to doubt myself (self-doubt) and constantly overthink. It creates a very large kind of chaos in my mind, which I know is...
“Have you ever thought of trying this colour? I think it would look good on you”
“Why would you think that thing would look good on you? It sucks.”
Or
“What do you do, do you plan to explore further?”
“What do you do, don't you think there are plenty of other things that could have been accomplished this whole time?”
“Why would you think that thing would look good on you? It sucks.”
Or
“What do you do, do you plan to explore further?”
“What do you do, don't you think there are plenty of other things that could have been accomplished this whole time?”
It's quite easy to recognise that there's a huge difference in both of these sentences in each example, right?
Well. The mind that can differentiate and understand the tone, and the meaning of the sentence just by reading, often fails to understand while hearing the same thing from someone.(fails in the sense - of always being unable to understand the true intention of a particular person.) yes, I have the same kind of mind and I believe many of us do. Yeah, I mean sometimes, I just cannot discern the intention of the person, which causes me to doubt myself (self-doubt) and constantly overthink. It creates a very large kind of chaos in my mind, which I know is not healthy at all( for me obviously and also for the people around me) Having this nature, a few days back I was scrolling social media and came across this post, which said -
Anyone who triggers self-doubt is teaching you to trust yourself.
‘Oh yes’ was my reaction after reading this. And I realised.
The problem isn't always the ‘people’ who trigger our doubt. The problem lies in our tendency to let doubt trigger our minds. Treating our mind as a secondary and prioritising what a third person, who has no idea what you are up to and what efforts, and steps have you been taking all the way, says about us. We just LET them trigger us, and one question arises - Why Should we?
Let's look at it from another perspective. Here are a few things I came to know through research and realised overcoming doubt, through an endless loop of overthinking so far.
The first thing is, that we must remember that doubting or dealing with negative self-talk, is a part of natural human behaviour. It's not like if you doubt, then you are weak or anything. It's just an expression of feeling and a phase that anyone can go through, especially children and young adults. As this happens more probably with youngsters, it's an easier opportunity for us that we can turn this doubt as a motivator to challenge our assumptions as well as to build self-confidence. It can push us outside of our comfort zone to seek knowledge and learn and experience new things.
Also, doubting conventional wisdom can surely inspire us to think more creatively and find innovative solutions. Let us not forget that it's always up to us whether we convert the doubt into a tool to be demotivated or a tool for our personal growth, and yes it requires a shift in perspective and intentional effort.
Remember your people love you and admire you. There are some strangers out there who you might have no idea of think you are great. Some furry beings also love you unconditionally. It would be so unfair to them if you just stop, the moment you start criticising yourself just because someone said something to you. The world is full of different perspectives and it's totally fine if we don't fit into each one of them. Let's grow by surrounding ourselves with positivity and good people. Let's embrace the doubt together.
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Scarlette De
El Basssmo
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How to overcome Self-Doubt, Overcoming limited beliefs, embracing self-doubt as a tool of growth