“Have you ever thought of trying this colour? I think it would look good on you” “Why would you think that thing would look good on you? It sucks.” Or “What do you do, do you plan to explore further?” “What do you do, don't you think there are plenty of other things that could have been accomplished this whole time?” It's quite easy to recognise that there's a huge difference in both of these sentences in each example, right? Well. The mind that can differentiate and understand the tone, and the meaning of the sentence just by reading, often fails to understand while hearing the same thing from someone.(fails in the sense - of always being unable to understand the true intention of a particular person.) yes, I have the same kind of mind and I believe many of us do. Yeah, I mean sometimes, I just cannot discern the intention of the person, which causes me to doubt myself (self-doubt) and constantly overthink. It creates a very large kind of chaos in my mind, which I know is...
There are differences amongst the people and we can't adjust with all kinds of the people we meet. We have to always remember that the person's mentality and way of thinking depend on the atmosphere person has been raised in. So
we cannot always change the perspective of the person, and even if we do, there are so fewer chances that person would understand what we are trying to say. Remember here we are talking about how we can deal with the negativity we get through the people, and not the mindsets of particular people. Because there are people who spread negativity intentionally and there are those who don't mean to. (they're just sharing their opinion which we can find out negative.) The people who intentionally spread negativity to you cannot always be recognised, and even if we do, we can't accept the fact because we are emotionally invested in them. So what to do? Well, my suggestion for this will be to JUST BE AWARE. Being aware here means you must prioritise yourself every time no matter what. Always remember YOU are the one who is important here. Whenever you feel that a particular person or any group of people constantly making you feel low, often trying you to feel different from them, just cut them down from your known people list. You will feel hesitant initially but by the time, you'll realise how good the decision was. Because we can surely notice the impact of negative energy we were getting is now gone. We don't realize what we have been through or what kind of feeling it is when we are in that particular situation. We have to take a break and think about ourselves. We all have made friends in our lives. We have different cultures, We have different opinions as well. But there is something that makes us the reason for being a Friend. It's a bond. A true friend never makes you feel low. A friend may tease you by literally anything but he will never say anything or act like anything that will make you hurt. That friend can be your friend, mother, father, sister, brother, grandfather, grandmother or anyone! Having a large number of people in our life is good, but not necessary. We can hang out with a large friend circle whereas we can also have our best time with just one person. After all, there is our peace of mind. And we always know where our comfort zone is. JUST BE WITH THEM WHO MAKES YOU FEEL YOURSELF!
We make friends in our life. We laugh together, we even tease each other. We show our anger to them but we do come together at the end of the day or some days after. Some things can not be meant for, and yet they happen so are the meetings with these negative people[jo hota hai, ache ke liye hota hai;)]. Also, be thankful to them because we learn a lot because of them.
When I faced this situation, there was a time I decided to keep my friend circle short, and not to connect with more people for my entire life( yea it sounds so funny now). If I didn't get the right mentorship at that time, I would have become someone else by now. Always remember there are people in the world that need you. You need them. All your love, support, friendship is something that someone is missing in their life. You cannot just take that away from them just because a few people in your life didn't treat you right. You are more than that. There's a phrase of popular Japanese manga creator Hajime Isayema that MEMORIES OF REGRET WILL ONLY DULL YOUR FUTURE DECISIONS. So forget all that happened. There are more things to be focused on! ๐ค
